Intimacy Day 6: Culture of Honour

May 17, 2020 Nelson Muhire

Welcome to day 6😁! Listen to the Audio above as you follow along with the text below. Don’t forget to leave a comment below and share with a friend.

One of my favourite verses in the Bible is 2 Timothy 1:9 which says, “He has saved us and called us to a holy life—not because of anything we have done but because of his own purpose and grace. This grace was given us in Christ Jesus before the beginning of time.”

In the one verse, the bible reminds us that God has saved us, called us, and purposed us in Christ Jesus. We did nothing to deserve it. The gift of purpose that God has given us isn’t weighed on our own merit but on the finished work of Jesus Christ.

In 2017, a dear friend of mine, Josh Kaspian, came to me desiring to be mentored. At that time, Josh was between jobs and eager to learn from me everything I knew about sound engineering. To be honest, I wasn’t particularly keen to take him on and train him. But he was available and eager to help with everything.

Before I knew it, Josh was coming over to my place almost everyday of the week. If there was anything broken that needed fixing, he got it fixed. When our monthly fellowships were approaching, he would organise everything we needed so that the fellowship day would run smoothly without any problems. It wasn’t long before he was making suggestions on how we could make our systems at the time more efficient.

Josh is the guy that taught me what it truly means to serve. Josh served with so much honour. What Josh didn’t know then is that, in that same year, I was suffering a crisis of purpose. I was on the verge of quitting and shutting down The Collective UG. In my heart, I was convinced that I had failed God. I was like Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden; running and hiding from God because I had failed to do the one thing He asked me to… Disciple young people. 

But Josh was like a machine. He had such a giving spirit that it became easy for me to start teaching him everything I knew. At first, it was the sound engineering, like he wanted, but as our connection grew deeper, it became life that we were sharing and learning from each other. Before I knew it, Josh had taught me how to be a better leader that disciples people. I was more motivated to read books and learn so that I could have something to share with Josh.

Not only did I gain a significant clarity of purpose when I began to honour Josh, but my intimacy with God was renewed. Josh helped me to stop hiding from God. I also know that Josh found a lot of clarity of purpose in that season.

Isn’t it fascinating how often we can find epiphanies in unexpected places. It is true that God has a magnificent plan and a purpose for you and I. But He has hidden pieces of the plan in the people around us. When we connect with one another and serve each other with honour, we unlock the pieces of this puzzle called purpose.

In other words, the more intimate we are with our neighbours, the more God’s purpose for our lives is revealed. If we are going to be a generation that encounters God and walks in his purpose, we must learn to honour one another.

What does it mean to honour one another? It means we are quick to forgive each other’s failures. It means we are keen to uplift one another, celebrating our diversity and challenging each other to grow into all that God has made us to be.

I known and believe that God has called me to be part of something great. I know that more confidently today because of all the incredible young people around me that I get the opportunity to connect with. Hearing them narrate their hopes and dreams really excites me because I imagine a world in which their dreams have become reality… And I have to tell you, it’s a wonderful world.


Good and gracious Father

You have been so generous to us

You have never failed at keeping you promises
And you don’t intend to start now

Lord, teach us to honour one another
Teach us to celebrate our diversity
Teach us to see the gifts you have planted in our neighbours

And teach to serve them as they grow in those gifts
For the glory of your kingdom

In Jesus name we pray,


1 Corinthians 12:20-25

“As it is, there are many parts, but one body. The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honourable we treat with special honour. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honour to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other.